Couples/Family
Bepko, C., & Johnson, T. (2000). Gay and lesbian couples in therapy: Perspectives
for the contemporary family therapist. Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, 26,
409-419.
Outlines issues and concerns of gay and lesbian couples who seek therapy. The authors
examine 4 "external" factors influencing lesbian/gay couples' functioning: (1) homophobia
and heterosexism, (2) gender norms, (3) issues around coming out to others, and (4)
social support from family of origin and family of choice. Also examined are internal
aspects of lesbian/gay couples' functioning, the dydadic interaction patterns between
the partners, and intrapsychic underpinnings of those patterns. Throughout the article,
therapy methods are described that address the unique concerns of lesbian and gay
couples, with special sensitivity to heterosexist and homophobic bias. It is concluded
that effective work with lesbian and gay couples requires therapists to be familiar
with the unique norms of the lesbian/gay community to avoid pathologizing what may
be normative behavior for couples in that community.
Crawford, I., McLeod, A., Zamboni, B. D., & Jordan, M. B. (1999). Psychologists' attitudes
toward gay and lesbian parenting. Professional Psychology: Research & Practice, 30,
394-401.
How does the average practicing psychologist view a gay or lesbian couple wishing
to adopt a child? Psychologists (N = 388) from across the United States read and rated
1 of 6 vignettes describing a couple interested in adopting a 5-year-old child. The
vignettes were identical except that the couples' sexual orientation was depicted
as gay male, lesbian, or heterosexual and the child was either a girl or boy. Results
indicated that participants who rated the gay male and lesbian couples with a female
child were less likely to recommend custody for these couples than participants who
rated the heterosexual couples. Before psychologists provide mental health services
to gay and lesbian people and their children, they should complete formal, systematic
training on sexual diversity.
Elizur, Y., & Ziv, M. (2001). Family support and acceptance, gay male identity, and
psychological adjustment: A path model. Family Process, 40, 125-144.
While heterosexist family undermining has been demonstrated to be a developmental
risk factor in the life of persons with same-gender orientation, the issue of protective
family factors is both controversial and relatively neglected. In this study of 114
Israeli gay males (16-55 yr olds), we focused on the interrelations of family support,
family acceptance, and family knowledge of gay orientation, and gay male identity
formation, and their effects on mental health and self-esteem. A path model was proposed
based on the hypothesis that family support, family acceptance, family knowledge,
and gay identity formation have an impact on psychological adjustment, and that family
support has an effect on gay identity formation that is mediated by family acceptance.
The testing of our conceptual path model demonstrated an excellent fit with the data.
An alternative model that hypothesized effects of gay male identity on family acceptance
and family knowledge did not fit the data. Interpreting these results, we propose
that the main effect of family support/acceptance on gay identity is related to the
process of disclosure, and that both general family support and family acceptance
of same-gender orientation play a significant role in the psychological adjustment
of gay men.
Flaks, D., Ficher, I., Masterpasqua, F., & Joseph, G. (1995). Lesbians choosing motherhood:
A comparative study of lesbian and heterosexual parents and their children. Developmental
Psychology, 31, 104-114.
Compared 15 lesbian couples and the 3- to 9-yr-old children born to them through donor
insemination with 15 matched, heterosexual-parent families. A variety of assessment
measures were used to evaluate the children's cognitive functioning and behavioral
adjustment as well as the parents' relationship quality and parenting skills. Results
revealed no significant differences between the 2 groups of children, who also compared
favorably with the standardization samples for the instruments used. In addition,
no significant differences were found between dyadic adjustment of lesbian and heterosexual
couples. Only in the area of parenting did the 2 groups of couples differ; lesbian
couples exhibited more parenting awareness skills than did heterosexual couples. The
implications of these findings are discussed.
Gottman, J.M., Levenson, R.W., Gross, J., Fredrickson, B.L., McCoy, K., Rosenthan,
L., Ruef, A., & Yoshimoto, D. (2003). Correlates of gay and lesbian couples' relationship
satisfaction and relationship dissolution. Journal of Homosexuality, 45, 23-43.
A sample of committed gay and lesbian cohabiting couples engaged in two conversations
after being apart for at least 8 hours: (a) an events of the day conversation and
(b) a conflict resolution conversation. Physiological data were collected during the
conversations and a videotape record was made. Couples viewed the videotapes and rated
their affect during the interaction. The video records were coded with a system that
categorized specific affects displayed. Models derived from physiology, from the perception
of interaction, and from specific affective behavior were related to relationship
satisfaction, and to the prediction of relationship dissolution over a 12-year period.
Results supported previous findings that satisfaction and stability in gay and lesbian
relationships are related to similar emotional qualities as in heterosexual relationships.
Kurdek, L. A. (2004). Are gay and lesbian cohabiting couples really different from
heterosexual married couples? Journal of Marriage and Family, 66, 880-900.
Both partners from gay and lesbian cohabiting couples without children were compared
longitudinally with both partners from heterosexual married couples with children
(N at first assessment = 80, 53, and 80 couples, respectively) on variables from 5
domains indicative of relationship health. For 50% of the comparisons, gay and lesbian
partners did not differ from heterosexual partners. Seventy-eight percent of the comparisons
on which differences were found indicated that gay or lesbian partners functioned
better than heterosexual partners did. Because the variables that predicted concurrent
relationship quality and relationship stability for heterosexual parents also did
so for gay and lesbian partners, I conclude that the processes that regulate relationship
functioning generalize across gay, lesbian, and heterosexual couples.
LaSala, M. C. (2004). Extradyadic sex and gay male couples: Comparing monogamous and
nonmonogamous relationships. Families in Society: The Journal of Contemporary Human
Services, 85, 405-412.
In this study, the author compared the relationship quality of sexually monogamous
and nonmonogamous gay male couples. Among a nationwide surveyed sample of 121 gay
male couples, no differences were found between strictly monogamous and openly nonmonogamous
couples on scores of the Dyadic Adjustment Scale (DAS). In addition, mean DAS scores
for both groups were within functional ranges. However, self-reported monogamous couples
in which 1 or both members engaged in extrarelational sex were less adjusted and satisfied
than their nonmonogamous and strictly monogamous counterparts. The findings suggest
that for some gay men, sexual monogamy may not be a necessary component of a satisfactory,
committed relationship, and social workers assisting gay male couples might need to
reconsider traditional ideas about sex, intimacy, and commitment.
Mohr, J.J., & Fassinger, R.E. (2006). Self-acceptance and self-disclosure of sexual
orientation in lesbian, gay and bisexual adults: An attachment perspective. Journal
of Counseling Psychology, 50, 482-495.
A model linking attachment variables with self-acceptance and self-disclosure of sexual
orientation was tested using data from 489 lesbian, gay, and bisexual (LGB) adults.
The model included the following 4 domains of variables: (a) representations of childhood
attachment experiences with parents, (b) perceptions of parental support for sexual
orientation, (c) general working model of attachment, and (d) LGB variables. Results
generally supported the proposed model. For example, attachment avoidance and anxiety
were associated with self-acceptance difficulties, and avoidance was associated with
low levels of outness in everyday life. Parental attachment had an indirect effect
on identity and outness through its associations with parental LGB support and general
attachment. Some results varied depending on participants' gender and parental religious
affiliation.
Newman, B.S., Muzzonigro, P.G. (1993). The effects of traditional family values on
the coming out process of gay male adolescents. Adolescence, 28, 213-216.
Studied stages of the coming out process and the influence of racial and ethnic identification
and the pressure of traditional family values on 27 17-20 yr old African-American,
Hispanic/Latino, Asian/Eurasian, and Caucasian male adolescents who were in the midst
of accepting a gay identity. Questionnaire results suggest 3 stages: sensitization;
awareness with confusion, denial, guilt, and shame; and acceptance. Traditional family
values played a greater role in predicting coming out experiences than did race. Families
were categorized as having high or low traditional values based on (1) the importance
of religion, (2) emphasis on marriage, (3) emphasis on having children, and (4) whether
a non-English language was spoken in the home. Families with a strong emphasis on
traditional values were perceived as less accepting of homosexuality than were the
low traditional families.
Patterson, C.J. (1992). Children of lesbian and gay parents. Child Development, 63,
1025–1042.
Reviews research on the personal and social development of children of gay or lesbian
parents (CGLP). Beginning with estimates of the numbers of such children, sociocultural,
theoretical, and legal reasons for attention to their development are then outlined.
In this context, studies on sexual identity, personal development, and social relationships
among these children are reviewed. Evidence does not show that the development of
CGLP is compromised significantly relative to that among children of heterosexual
parents in comparable situations.
Patterson, C. J. (1995). Families of the baby boom: Parents' division of labor and
children's adjustment. Developmental Psychology, 31, 115-123.
Assessed lesbian couples' division of labor, their satisfaction with division of labor
and with their relationships, and their children's psychosocial adjustment. The 26
participating families were headed by lesbian couples, each of whom had at least 1
child between 4 and 9 yrs of age. Parents' relationship satisfaction was generally
high but was unrelated to measures of parental division of labor or of children's
adjustment. Although both parents reported sharing household tasks and decision making
equally, biological mothers reported greater involvement in child care, and nonbiological
mothers reported spending longer hours in paid employment. Parents were more satisfied
and children were more well-adjusted when labor involved in child care was more evenly
distributed between the parents.
Patterson, C. J. (2000). Family relationships of lesbians and gay men. Journal of
Marriage and the Family, 62, 1052-1069.
Presents an overview of research on the family lives of lesbians and gay men. It is
noted that the family lives of lesbian and gay people have been a source of controversy
during the past decade. Despite prejudice and discrimination, lesbians and gay men
have often succeeded in creating and sustaining family relationships. Research on
same-gender couple relationships, parent-child relationships, and other family relationships
are reviewed here. In general, the picture of lesbian and gay relationships emerging
from this body of work is one of positive adjustment, even in the face of stressful
conditions. Research is also beginning to address questions about individual differences
among the family relationships of lesbians and gay men. It is concluded that future
work in this area has the potential to affect lesbian and gay lives, influence developmental
and family theory, and inform public policies.
Roth, S. (1985). Psychotherapy with lesbian couples: Individual issues, female socialization,
and the social context. Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, 11, 273-286.
Argues that relationship patterns in lesbian couples vary systematically from relationship
patterns in heterosexual couples in ways that are related to the exclusively female
composition of these couples, their stigmatizable identity, and the lack of social
recognition and acceptance for such family units. These pattern differences are addressed
from a systematic perspective in the 5 major issues most often presented by lesbian
couples at the beginning of therapy: distance regulation and boundary maintenance,
sexual expression, financial arrangements, breaking up, and stage differences in coming
out and development of lesbian identity. It is concluded that effective therapy with
lesbian couples requires that the therapist be skilled at seeing the interrelationships
among the individual, couple, and larger social systems.
Stacey, J. & Biblarz, T. J. (2001). (How) Does sexual orientation of parents matter?
American Sociological Review, 65, 159-183.
Opponents of lesbian and gay parental rights claim that children with lesbigay parents
are at higher risk for a variety of negative outcomes. Yet most research in psychology
concludes that there are no differences in developmental outcomes between children
raised by lesbigay parents and those raised by heterosexual parents. This analysis
challenges this defensive conceptual framework and analyzes how heterosexism has hampered
intellectual progress in the field. The authors discuss limitations in the definitions,
samples, and analyses of the studies to date. Next they explore findings from 21 studies
and demonstrate that researchers frequently downplay findings indicating difference
regarding children's gender and sexual preferences and behavior that could stimulate
important theoretical questions. A less defensive, more sociologically informed analytic
framework is proposed for investigating these issues. The framework focuses on (1)
whether selection effects produced by homophobia account for associations between
parental sexual orientations and child outcomes; (2) the role of parental gender vis-a-vis
sexual orientation in influencing children's gender development; and (3) the relationship
between parental sexual orientations and children's sexual preferences and behaviors.